二零零八年 九月 二十三日 星期二 下午 晴天
大家好，好久沒上部落格了。 最近我接到一個不是很愉快的事，我朋友病重了，有腫瘤在腦内。
在上個星期五，我約了另外一位朋友去醫院探望他。當我們開門踏進病房的時候，我嚇倒了，他現在判若兩人。因爲他剛開刀拿了幾棵腫瘤，身體削瘦了很多，記憶很衰退了很多。還沒出發前，聼說有些朋友他真的不認得了，都蠻害帕他也不認得我。我們是屬於最后一批探望他的同事。
不過，很覺得安慰的是，當我們進去的時候都有問他認不認得我，他點了頭一下，我頓時松了一口氣。最有趣的是他還和他的老婆打情罵俏，他說“他看起來老了，沒有人要”，突然閒他哭起來了,緩和了整個靜靜的環境。
其實以前和他同一閒公司的時候,給別人的印象是個大老玩童,也是個很有想法的人。在兩個月前，他已經發覺有腫瘤了，我朋友有試過聯絡我，但是工作的關係，我無法知道。
現在他正在做者電療，因爲還有幾棵腫瘤還在腦裏，要把它們縮小，要過了這個星期才可以探望他，他暫時隔離了。
我只能請求上天，保佑他能渡過這個難關，早日康復。讓我們重見這個老玩童。
突然想起一套香港連戲劇，有一幕是在飛機場：
入境的時候就有很多人迎接你歸來，抱著很開心的心情；就好像嬰兒剛出世的時候，很多人很開心，迎接這個新生命。
出境的時候就有很多人抱著很悲傷，很不捨的心情歡送你；就好像人生的盡頭，很多人就會聚在一起，珍惜這一刻這一秒。
二零零八年 八月 二十五日 星期一 晴天 （但有點陰天）
最近真的非常超級忙， 蠻累的。。。 不過今天終于差不多趕完了，開始要追功課了 （應
二零零八年 六月 十日 下午 阴天
最近我想找回久仰和失去联络的朋友，是件蛮辛苦的事，也无从往那儿下手。因为不限于现在失去联络，而甚至几十年(那当然不超过二十五年)。朋友要好好珍惜身边的每一切，时间不允许等，要把握，过了就难追回来。朋友们，珍重！
现在我才发觉我写的部落格蛮悲的，下一次我会写开心一点的话题。
加油！加油！加油！
二零零八年 六月 十日 下午 阴天
好久好久没写部落格了，生活上的忙碌不管是工作上或学业上，都有点喘不到气。在事业上刚换新的环境，还在摸索和学习中，现在还蛮可以适应。在学业上刚开始，还在努力着达到目标。
做每件事一开始的时候，都非常充满恒心。。。但现在有点累，提不起劲，好想休息(好久没充电旅行了)。
手头上的计划其实蛮多，真的需要很长的时间去想，好好计划。第一个就是学业，我的年纪不轻了，真的需要超强的耐心，恒心和努力去学(其实我蛮喜欢进修学不同的东西可以祢补事业上所学不到的知识)。最近我也计划去外地发展，去学习不同文化的工作方式，这真的需要想一下家人的感想(怎么说我都是独生子嘛！其实还蛮辛苦的)，加上我刚摆脱单身行列，也是要给时间大家。
只要再给多一点时间，我相信我会摆脱现在的困扰，在事业和学业再冲刺。。。相信，会更好好过。。。
二零零七年 十二月 二十三日 星期日 阴天
前天 (二零零七年 十二月 二十一日 星期五 阴天) 一大早凌晨两点多就出发再回去公公的家 (地里望，加叻彭亨州) ，因为华人传统(俗语说:冬至大过年) ，所以提早做"百祭"(应该是这样说，客家人的传统: 长辈去世过后，在一百天之内要"戴孝")，加上我是"长孙"也理所当然跟我的爸爸和婆婆去参与。
大概五点就到达了目的地，不是很多人参与，因为不是在公共假期周末周日，大家都忙着工作，叔叔和姑姑们都几乎到齐。整个过程不用花费很多时间，但大家心情都很愉快，不时都会开怀大笑。虽然大家相处时间不长 (婆婆在我的爸爸小时候就离开了公公，最近才开始联络回其他叔叔和姑姑们) 但很融合，还蛮不错。
整个过程完毕了后，大家都坐在一起聊天吃饭，谈往事趣事和公公的为人，有说有笑。最有趣的事，我的婆婆也有"扭计"的一面，因为其中一位叔叔留她下来住几天，她很犹豫，但最后被叔叔说服她留下来了。其实我的婆婆是个蛮幽默和搞笑的人，所以那天所有人都很留心听她讲故事。
那天是我最愉快和轻松的一天，那边有很多美丽的风景，很清新的空气，真的很不舍得！
二零零七年十一月二十二日 星期四 晴天
今天午餐时刻，和平常一样和同事们吃饭，在一小时内，我们的话题大致上都围绕着一个人(其实我大不喜欢午餐时说别人坏话和八卦)，就是我的前上司。还记得以前我刚进会计部门的时候，坦白说我很怕他，表面上他很凶，其实他很好人，肯提拔新人。我认识他应该是七年前了，但成为他的下属应该是三年前的事了。
他对他的下属很好，很团结，每个星期六甚至每天都一大伙人吃饭(会计部门，有时和其他部门的人一起)，所以这样那时候没有人要辞职。还记得在零五年某月某日，他突然辞职了，那时候我听到了之后很惊讶，很意外。那时候我没有问他原因(可能是私人原因)。过后一个一个辞职了，剩下我。他过后去了东南亚某个国家工作了，已经很久没听他的消息了。
同事们每次提起他的时候，都会说他的趣事(其实他蛮搞笑)。不过我知道同事们(包括我)时常会忆起以前工作和他相处的时候和他的趣事。
希望他幸福快乐，保重！
二零零七年十一月十九日 星期一 阴天/雨天
大部份的人都认为工作第一天(星期一)，都不想上班，心情很不好很懒惰因为大家还在怀念周末的心情，哈哈。。。我也不另外，工作太繁忙了，怎么样都好心情也是要收拾起来。
最近我的运气不是很好，现在算是刚刚开始我的低潮，不是自己预料之内。就拿一个比喻，星期六那天我和我的朋友去了双威的一间著名学院(我的首选)，本来打算报名，但要等今天才得到答案，因为负责人不在。在某种原因和情况下(我之前未完毕的课程)，我被逼变成了跳班生，可能这样我被拒绝了。没办法了。。。寻找另一间吧！ (其他的学院因为时间恰好是放工繁忙时刻，加上我的放工时间比较迟，很难配合) 唯有另有其谋，重新安排和计划。
人生就是这样，有起就有落，最主要的是在低潮的时候及时变通，计划下一步要怎么样走。期待"明天会更更好"。
二零零七年 十月 二十八日 星期日 晴天
在二零零七年 十月 二十三日 星期二 晴天， 早上十点多突然接到爸爸的电话，他说公公早上七点多已经去世了。我当时已经要准备收拾心情回去公公的家 (其实我有两个婆婆，以前的年代可以一父多妻，而我的婆婆是属于正室)，他的家在地里望，彭亨州。
其实我们和公公还有小婆婆的家人已经失散了几十年，因为爸爸在很小的时候，婆婆带走了他和姑姑她们回去娘家 (美罗，霹雳州)，但在很久以前爸爸(相信当年是十多二十多岁吧！)曾经又遇见了几位叔叔和公公。
可能是命中注定，之前在互相寻找对方的时候，终于找到了，就在两年前的农历新年，我终于第一次见到我的公公，知道我还有六个叔叔五个姑姑(一个叔叔已经去世了，小婆婆也刚刚在探望前几个月已经去世了)，可以说是最开心的一天，因为终于一家团聚了(因为我是个念亲情的人，和我的叔叔(小婆婆)一样)，可能公公一直盼望着一家团圆。
在路途中我的心情很不安，很漂浮，好像很不熟悉但又很亲的亲人去了另外一个世界。在那几天里(星期五出殡)大家都过得很开开心心(大家都掩饰自己悲伤的心情)，团聚一起。但是在某些情况大家都会放声大哭。
星期五下午，所有丧事都做完了，是时候又要离别了，我非常的很依依不舍，因为今天一别不知几时又在相聚。
公公，虽然我只见过您一次，但我永远都会记在我的脑袋里，永远怀念您。我的人生只留下遗憾，就是没有认真的叫您一声"公公"，我很多话想和您说。。。
叔叔们，姑姑们，不知何时我们又在团聚一起。。。
10 steps to enjoying each other better…
1. Be realistic about each other.
Don’t try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let’s face it, guys-there’s only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials ! or treat ments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u’re gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out.
Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don’t make assumptions about each other’s feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u’re angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it’s the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together.
Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or jus strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road . Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u’re spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it’s a warning sign that u’re drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway.
If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn’t kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There’s gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show ur love
Buy her flowers or candy or perfume everynow and then, even if u have been together for 5years. It’s wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine’s Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can’t wear ( like for decoration purposes => ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him…so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other.
Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other’s feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past.
Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don’t bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don’t talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b’cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.< /P>
8. Sit on ur jealousy.
All of us go thru’ spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don’t translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u’re gonna go through ur partner’s mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru’ the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other.
If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u’re in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don’t disappoint them if u can help it. It’s really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don’t make promises u can’t keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest.
Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly~! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u’re hurt, say so, and when u’re angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can’t be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? æ Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probabl! y isn’t worth it!
*really very true……………….
Girls r surely going to read it
*Belive it or not…….
1. Guys like their gadgets & bikes more than a girl. Guys don’t actually look after good-looking girls. They prefer neat and presentable girls.
2. Guys hate flirts.
3.When a guy says he doesn’t understand you, it simply means you’re not thinking the way he is.
4. Guys may be flirting around all day but before they go to sleep, they always think about the girl they truly care about .
5. When a guy really likes you, he’ll disregard all your bad characteristics.
6. Guys go crazy over a girl’s smile.
7. Guys will do anything just to get the girl’s attention.
8. When you touch a guy’s heart, there’s no turning back.
9. When a girl says "no", a guy hears it as "try again tomorrow". … so true.
10. You have to tell a guy what you really want before he gets the message clearly.
11. Guys love their moms.
12. A guy would sacrifice his money for lunch just to get you a couple of roses.
13. A guy often thinks about the girl who likes him. But this doesn’t mean that the guy likes her.
14. You can never understand him unless you listen to him.
15. If a guy tells you he loves you once in a lifetime. He does.
16. Beware. Guys can make gossips scatter through half of the face of the earth faster than girls can.
17. Like Eve, girls are guys’ weaknesses.
18. Guys are very open about themselves.
19. It’s good to test a guy first before you believe him. But don’t let him wait that long.
20. Guys hate it when their clothes get dirty. Even a small dot.
21. Guys really admire girls that they like even if they’re not that much pretty.
22. If a guy tells you about his problems, he just needs someone to listen to him. You don’t need to give advice … very true.
23. A usual act that proves that the guy likes you is when he teases you. 24. Guys keep secrets that girls tell them.
25. Guys think too much.
26. Guys fantasies are unlimited.
27. Girls’ height doesn’t really matter to a guy but her weight does! … very true.
28. Guys tend to get serious with their relationship and become too possessive. So watch out girls!!!
29. Guys are more talkative than girls are especially when the topic is about girls.
30. You can truly say that a guy has good intentions if you see him praying sometimes.
31. If a guy says you’re beautiful, that guy likes you.
32. Guys hate girls who overreact.
33. Guys love you more than you love them IF they are serious in your relationships.
Doesn’t this all make sense?
